Author Topic: I soooo need to get out more  (Read 6486 times)

sergey

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #15 on: 17:12:29, 25/07/09 »
you see people everyday, don't you, why are you so afraid of strangers then? :)

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #16 on: 20:02:07, 25/07/09 »
it's ok if you dont want to go out with strangers

you dont have friends at all??
go to a night club and there you'll definately find someone or something. ;)
well then if you dont want to spend your time with strangers then with whom?
we are also strangers  for you here  ;D

anyway,you should take others advice and explore the most beautiful parts of the city.

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #17 on: 20:12:18, 25/07/09 »
you see people everyday, don't you, why are you so afraid of strangers then? :)

I see people every day so I shouldn't be afraid of strangers...? I don't understand the logic behind that...

I see the same people every day, they are not strangers. They're OK but I don't like them enough to want to see them outside work.

I've said several times now that I am not going to arrange to meet a complete stranger through an internet forum. I think the reasons for that are obvious, that doesn't mean I'm afraid of strangers. If I see someone in the street that I don't know, I don't run and hide.

I wouldn't get into a car with someone I don't know, that doesn't mean I'm afraid of cars, car drivers or people I don't know, it's just common sense.

I'm not going to change my mind on this particular issue so there's little point in questioning me about it any further.

mark78

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #18 on: 20:24:05, 25/07/09 »
it's ok if you dont want to go out with strangers

I think it's sensible to not want to meet up with a complete stranger who you only know through an internet forum


you dont have friends at all??


I said in an earlier message, I have very few friends, I tend to only go out at the times when I can arrange something with them which isn't always as they have other frends they see at other times.

go to a night club and there you'll definately find someone or something. ;)


I'm not one for night clubs, I was when I was a student but not now. I think they're too noisy, you can't hear what the other person is saying to you and I often had to pretend I could hear what they were saying, very annoying!


well then if you dont want to spend your time with strangers then with whom?

I've said before that I will look into societies, groups etc in the local area. That's a better way of meeting people that arranging to meet complete strangers through the internet.


we are also strangers  for you here  ;D


Yes but posting messages to one on an internet forum is not the same as arranging to meet a total stranger.


anyway,you should take others advice and explore the most beautiful parts of the city.

I agree with that 100%, I just don't agree in meeting a total stranger for the reasons I've given before.

Thanks for your suggestions :)

sergey

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #19 on: 21:04:01, 25/07/09 »
mate, nobody's talking about meeting a stranger from this forum or any other forum.
you seem to be getting everything too literally... you'd better use your imagination

don't be so stiff... you need to change some of your principles

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #20 on: 22:11:24, 25/07/09 »
mate, nobody's talking about meeting a stranger from this forum or any other forum.
you seem to be getting everything too literally... you'd better use your imagination

don't be so stiff... you need to change some of your principles

Well, actually, it has been suggested to me by people on this forum, you included, that I meet a complete stranger, I have said I'm not prepared to do this. After saying that, you start asking me about it further and so the issue persists and I have to repeat myself.

Of course, I'm going to take what you write literally... What am I supposed to do? Use my imagination as you put it to assume that you actually mean something else and to start guessing what that might be?

I've already said I need to change, I accept that. I would say to you that you need to stop asking somebody about something that they have already said several times that they are not prepared to do and learn when to drop it.

I have said that I will look into societies and activities within the region. Let's leave it at that.

sergey

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #21 on: 22:16:13, 25/07/09 »
perhaps I'm just probing your patience  ;D ;D no offence taken? I hope so

you asked for the help - I'm doing my best to help you :) if you feel flooded with my help don't hesitate to shut me up :)

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #22 on: 22:30:10, 25/07/09 »
perhaps I'm just probing your patience  ;D ;D no offence taken? I hope so

you asked for the help - I'm doing my best to help you :) if you feel flooded with my help don't hesitate to shut me up :)

Not at all :) I really appreciate the time people have taken to give their suggestions. The only thing I don't want to do is to arrange to meet a total stranger, that's all.

How come you're not out tonight?  ;)

As for me, I'm indoors watching Collateral (seen it before)

sergey

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« Reply #23 on: 09:19:49, 26/07/09 »
I know what you mean, I can hardly imagine a situation when I'd want to meet a stranger either. What I'm trying to point out is that you shouldn't be so stubborn in your judgements. Mate, we never know, nobody knows. A total stranger can change your life in a way you'd never expect. You see what I mean? I mean don't say 'no' in any case just cause YOU think it's a bad thing. As for me I like having a little chat to strangers 10-20 years older than me along with a pint of bear in a bar or somewhere, they are always good speakers.
And you must be ashamed to meet someone via the net? You think he or she will be thinking "or he is a [censored], can only make friends through the net" this is a [censored] really, there's nothing to be ashamed of here.
if I were you, I'd make an appointment right here right now no matter with whom :) just to experiment

I'd say you don't seem to need any advice at all, I just like talking to strangers  ;D ;D

I usually turn in before midnight and wake up early, so, when you asked, I was at home :) I think all the going-out's should be made from 6 to 11 pm ;D and I like watching films I have seen enormous amount of times before too cause I like them!

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #24 on: 13:28:34, 26/07/09 »

And you must be ashamed to meet someone via the net?

No, it isn't a question of shame or embarrassment, its one of safety.

I've met strangers before and got on with them. Every time you meet someone for the first time, you're meeting a stranger but its usually either coincidence that you're meeting someone who is in the same place as you at the same time or you're meeting someone who is a friend of a friend who has vouched for them etc...

Arranging to meet someone you know absolutely nothing about is unwise if you ask me and potentially dangerous. I don't really want to discuss the 'strangers' issue any further, thanks.

sergey

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #25 on: 14:19:19, 26/07/09 »
what are you affraid of?  :o :o they're not going to split you in halves and rape after that  ;D well, I'm not going! Who is going??  ;D Listen, I've been joking.

By "meeting a stranger" I mean anything, whatever you don't want to admit but should have. And if you're asking for advice make sure you need it.
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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #26 on: 14:30:15, 26/07/09 »
I don't really want to discuss the 'strangers' issue any further, thanks.

Whether you are joking or not, why do you persist with this? How many times do I need to say 'I don't want to talk about it any further' before you finally drop it??

I want you to take this literally, don't use your imagination, just read and understand the following words...

I do not want to talk about it any further.

sergey

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #27 on: 14:34:51, 26/07/09 »
ok, that would be a good issue to talk over though...

what whould you wish to talk about?

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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #28 on: 15:09:10, 26/07/09 »
I can see why you don’t want to meet up with strangers – It’s self-explanatory and needs no further discussion on that level - you don’t want to meet nutters, stalkers or people who will ultimately hurt you / take advantage financially, emotionally, etc. Even established friends can do that – if you rely on established friends introducing you to folk then you could wait forever – sometimes you need to take chances – remember that the people you meet don’t know you either so they will be just as wary of you. A group or club will at least let you see who has mutual interests, and that’s a good starting place.
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Re: I soooo need to get out more
« Reply #29 on: 17:18:12, 26/07/09 »
I can see why you don’t want to meet up with strangers – It’s self-explanatory and needs no further discussion on that level -

A group or club will at least let you see who has mutual interests, and that’s a good starting place.

Exactly, that's what I've said I'm going to do.