quote author=wordswords link=topic=6676.msg109707#msg109707 date=1327266284]
I have been here since June. I personally don't like posh people. My point was that Manchester is a lot less 'posh' than London and the south east - I think Manchester has got it good
##Wordswords, I hope you are finding it good here in Manchester? Big upheaval for you I have to say! I hope you continue to enjoy it here! It really is a lovely city!
I know Manchester is 'less posh' than London, my point is that there seems to be an influx of people who are posh, (I really have nothing against posh people per se) and are seemingly pretty ignorant in their mannerisms and outward behaviour. I may be being incredibly unkind, and it may be that these people are just a product of coming from somewhere that is far busier and no time is spared for idle pleasantries, so they aren't that familiar with it and choose to ignore it.
My little girl went to a dance class with another little girl whose mother I see every day, twice a day going to and from the same school. I know this paticular lady is a Southerner, I spoke to her at the dance lessons and said 'hello, nice to see you here, your little girl goes to the same school, nice to meet you!' by way of introduction, her little girl had obviously been going ages and they both knew others there, I knew no-one, so I thought I would make a small and non-commital introduction so I wouldn't feel so 'out there' as you do when you do something new.
After that brief hello, I was ignored while she went off to sit with others she knew. I didn't force the issue, I didn't want to be pushy or a pain in the ass etc. Anyway, next time I saw her in the morning on the way to school, I said hello, and got a pretty short and forced hello back. I saw her again in the afternoon, and said hello again. Thinking if I just kept it at hello and made it obvious I wasn't the type to force myself uninvited on anyone, she would relax. Not so. My little girl eventually decided dancing wasn't for her, but long before that the hello's stopped, everyday I see this woman on the way to and from school and she pointedly looks the other way and makes every effort not to say hello.
I wish this was a single case, but it isn't. I do speak to other mums who I get along well with, and as time has passed more and more have admitted and made remarks about this same sort of thing they have also come across.
I have to point out at this juncture, I am aware of personal space, not being overly friendly as it can come off as being threatening in a way etc and so on, I never do (or did) say more than a quick hello and smile to acknowledge the existance of people I see every single day, twice a day in school term time. Fellow Mancunians have no problem whatsoever with it, and I often get back a great smile and hello back. We carry on walking, no commitment has been made to suddenly have to embrace this person into our life and make time for them or any of that sort of thing, its merely taken at face value for what it is, a friendly greeting. I know I generalise saying its mostyly Southerners, there do seem to be a lot moving into Chorlton and Didsbury, but it just seems in general there seems to be a massive decline in just saying hello to each other without it being veiwed as some massive faux pas.
Maybe I'm just not recognising times are changing and being a bit of a fossil? I am open to being told I am wrong, and accept any perfectly valid answer as to why I'm being a bit tiresome over this subject.
As I said, change I am all for, but sometimes it just feels like its not a good thing even though economically and financially its the very best thing to stop an area going into decline.
Anyway, enough from me, I don't want people to think I am somehow averse to change and new people being here, I really don't mind. Its just watching something so nice that cost nothing slip away. Its pretty painful in all actuality.